Think about your first painful memory with your parent. Approximate how old you were. Now Google that age. Look at the image results. That's how old you were when the dynamic was set. That's who was responsible for changing it. It wasn't you.

Something horrible happened to me. And the world just kept moving. When you're in the middle of a crisis, people say the thing. You know the thing. "Let me know if you need anything." They meant it. Probably. But you didn't reach out. And neither did I. Here's why that offer almost never works, and what actually does.